What if is a dangerous phrase. Recently something happened that I wish I could have changed, could have prevented somehow and I felt as if I could take the blame on myself it would make the situation easier.
A friend of mine was in a car accident after leaving my house, after something I had planned. I couldn't stop thinking about if I could have done anything to change the situation. What if we had left earlier, would that have made a difference? Could I have prevented it if I had just said "lets go"?
I read a book in which a character says to not live in the land of "If only". If only you had done something different, if only I hadn't asked them for a lift, if only we hadn't stayed out so late; but it doesn't matter. It happened and thinking those things won't help anything and will only make me feel worse.
A friend said something really interesting to me, that in wishing to change things I was inadvertently wishing to change God's plans. It happened for a reason and no amount of What ifs or If onlys can change that.
"We may make a lot of plans
but the Lord will do what he has decided - Proverbs 19:21"
And so through this and other experiences I am learning to trust God and His plans over my own. God knows what is best even when it doesn't seem like it at the time and maybe one day we will realise we never would have wanted our What ifs to have worked out anyway.
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